The Art of Solo Dating : Building self love with yourself + 20 Solo Date Ideas 

BySOWMIYA S

The most important relationship you will ever have is the one with yourself.Isn’t there something magical about spending quality time with yourself,just like a regular date.Solo date is taking yourself out to do your favourite things.Solo dating allows for a beautiful opportunity of self discovery and self worth. 

Isn’t it beautifully romantic to take yourself out for coffee,people watching and reading a book alone in the cafe.We are born alone and we leave earth alone.So why don’t we embrace taking time out for ourselves to become our own best friend.

Here is to debunk the myth that people who are only single can enjoy solo dates.Absolutely not,those who are married,having kids,or even in old age can enjoy solo dates.Whatever stage of life you are in,it is important to take care for yourself and spend time for yourself.

“To be able to visit museums alone,go out to dinner with yourself,take long walks and go on movie dates alone is an underrated skill”

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Here are the benefits of Solo dating and why you should consider going on one this week !

Helps improve confidence 

We as humans want to establish independence in every area of our life,we want to move out,have an independent house, a business, finances.But when it comes to going out alone to enjoy and spend sometimes,we are scared.We have the fear of judgement.

  • How can I eat alone in a restaurant 
  • I cannot watch movie alone in a theater 
  • What will people think when im alone shopping 

All these thoughts ruminate in our brains.

But once we step outside alone for a solo date,we might feel awkward at first.But moving on with a few more dates,our confidence level will spike up.Spending time with yourself can just be self assuring that you don’t need to enjoy only while you have company. 

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“Hanging out with myself is honestly a vibe”

Enjoying your own company

Sometimes our friends and family might not want to come out to a particular place or don’t like a particular activity fun to do.

This might sometimes stop us from enjoying the activity altogether,just because someone didn’t want to come. 

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But when we become comfortable with solo dating,we don’t have to wait for someone to join us.When we have a plan to go to a theater,we can just go ahead without waiting.

This helps us to improve the connection with ourselves  and enjoy our own company instead of waiting for others.

Allows us to slow down and be present

In solo dates,whether it be a beach yoga class or painting or even enjoying the sunset,solo dating helps to to slow down 

When we are with someone there is this pressure to keep the conversation going.Silence might feel uncomfortable 

When we are alone on a solo date,there is no pressure to do anything or be anything.It is just us and our waves of flowing thoughts.

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Solo dating will help us be present in the exact moment,instead of being lost somewhere mid conversation. 

Being present and mindful can help us go a long way in our self love journey.

“Solitude is deep romance with self“

R.H.Sin 

Solo dating helps promote self discovery

As this blog post shows,solo dates have a direct impact on our mental health and well being 

Growing up as a people pleaser,I never really understood my own wants and needs.But ever since I started my self love journey and going out alone.I realised what i really liked. 

Solo dating helps us understand our own preferences,likes and dislikes.It can help us make better choices in our daily life. 

Jemima Sparrow

When we like a dress,instead of asking our partner how it is,we are forced to make the decision ourselves.

This self discovery can help us make better choices in the future as well,about choosing our partner or about designing our house the way we like. 

Romanticizing solo dates 

The most important part of solo dates is to romanticize it as if you are in a movie.Treating yourself how you would treat a friend you like.

For an actual date,I’m sure you would dress up pretty,get flowers for the other person,be on the best of you.The same applied with solo dating. 

The rule is you will have to look your best,get some flowers and get your favourite coffee and romanticise reading your book. 

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Showing yourself all the 5 love languages can also be a great way to romanticize solo dating

This is you showing up as beautifully for yourself as you would for someone else.Romanticizing solo dating is the best part of living itself. 

Here are 20 solo date ideas that you can try this week.

Solo date ideas

  1. A classic coffee shop date- bonus to bring a book to read 
  2. Going to watch sunset in the  beach 
  3. A small picnic in the park – set up the blanket,some cookies, enjoying all in nature 
  4. Movie date- enjoying a good movie all by yourself,buying your favourite munchies 
  5. Going to a flower shop and hand picking your favourite flowers for a bouquet 
  6. A painting solo date – can be done indoors during the sunset hours 
  7. Having a dance party with blasting music and disco lights at home all by yourself
  8. Baking a heart pizza  
  9. Taking yourself for a spa pedicure 
  10. Cooking a comforting meal and watching your favourite show 
  11. Making chocolate covered strawberries 
  12. Visiting a museum or art galleries 
  13. Stargazing on a clear night  
  14. Going on a road trip to a nearby town 
  15. Staying alone in a hotel room 
  16. Writing yourself a love letter 
  17. Visiting a farmers market
  18. Trying out something creative,embroidery,painting … 
  19. Making cute mocktails at home 
  20. Create an itinerary for your dream destinations 

Conclusion

Before starting your solo date journey,change your mindset that being alone is lonely.Solitude is a gift that you can give to yourself.Confidence grows when you are self aware,this inturn helps us make better connections in the future. 

Consider this your sign to get on a solo date and enjoy being there for yourself.Let me know in the comments below which is the first solo date idea you are going to try.

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